I have been in a relationship for going on 5 years now, and it's unlike any other I have ever had, or thought I would ever be okay with. Me and S are both selfish people, and we like certain things a specific way and we are not willing to compromise. We are also both pretty quiet people. Some of the things that work for us have had people give me some crazy looks, and responses. We really suck at keeping in touch, we don't like talking on the phone and hate small talk. On occasion I go spend a few nights at my moms, the last time I went there was the first time I had in 6 months, so I stayed for 6 days. our daughter's called him to say goodnight a couple times and he texted me once a day to say "I love you" and I messaged him 2 or 3 videos to update him on what we were up to, and that was more than enough communication for us. Well, this got some strange looks from my sister. He is busy, I sleep strange hours, and we just don't feel the need to be in touch constantly. Sure we miss eachother but we both enjoy our space. We are faithful and loyal and have total trust in each other, so the need for talking more than this while I'm gone just isn't for us. We share a bed, but not a blanket. Strange right? Well we like our specific blankets and are not willing to compromise like I said before. When we first started dating we tried to be like normal couples but soon realised it was just not for us. We sleep better with our own blanket, there's no fighting over covers, there's no cold feet on your leg, and you can wrap yourself completely up. It's fantastic and we sleep so much better. I always thought I was that girl who liked to cuddle and have someone up in your personal space all the time. Um I was wrong. We do not cuddle. We sleep with our backs to eachother. I've had someone that tried to cuddle with me all night and watching TV and I hated it, with a freaking passion. I like personal space, just like S. We will sit on the same couch to watch tv, and that is fine for us, we don't need to be in each others personal space at all times to be in love. We don't go to bed at the same time, ever. He works, he gets up early so he goes to bed early. I do not, and I'm a night owl, thats not changing ever. But again, this is what works for us. We kiss twice a day usually. He will kiss me when he leaves the house, and when he goes to bed, and that's just fine with both of us. Not only do we like our personal space, we are not huge fans of affection. Who knows maybe one day we will be, but currently, not so much. Also, since we do not do these things normally, if S decides to come up to me and hug me or give me a kiss just because, it means that much more. We are really in love and have a lot of fun together and we are much happier once we stopped forcing all of these habits just to be "normal". Normal just doesn't work for us, and that's okay. We have a wonderful relationship, we get along amazing, we agree on just about everything but we just do certain things differently than most. What are some of the things you do in your relationship that just work for you but are not "normal"? |